It’s time to begin thinking of a self-care plan. An intentional, methodical way to care for your own heart. Begin thinking about things that bring you some measure of peace, consolation.
It might be a warm cup of tea, reading, attending an in person or private yoga class. It might be a meditation class, listening to music, throwing paint on a canvas. It might be holding your child’s blanket, stuffed animal, sitting in his or her nursery, looking at pictures.
It might be something else altogether.
Find a space and time to honor your heart’s needs.
What brings you comfort? Comfort is nurturing to your heart. It is something we sometimes find ourselves doing less and less because things like pictures, albums and songs stir up memories that trigger tears and falling apart.
Define what comfort is to you. Is it something that helps you keep it together? Or something that reminds you of your child? To some people comfort is seeing hearts and other symbols in surprising places, creating something in their child’s memory, visiting the cemetery, playing certain music. And to others it is activities that might look like distractions, but are actually meditative ways to process grief like exercise, yoga, gardening, cooking, photography, spending time in nature, watching the sun rise or sun set.
Search within, define what comfort is to you right now. It might not have been what it was a week ago, a month ago or even an hour ago.
And then set aside some time for this activity.
Be intentional about your nurturing your heart through this season.
One step. One breath. One heart.
You will make it, brave mama.
If you are enjoying this series, you might also want to check out Facets of Grief, a donation-based art therapy workshop for grieving mothers.